Our wedding anniversary is this week, and I want to take a moment to celebrate both my husband and our relationship. I met my husband in college. My roommate was dating his roommate, and the two of them were trying to set us up. Our roommates decided to invite the both of us to play a game of swimming pool football in our apartment complex pool. It was my husband and me against our roommates. The moment I arrived at the pool, I knew that there was something special there. I immediately felt like I had known him my whole life — like my soul recognized his soul. [And, as a side note, we won the swimming pool football game. My husband says that I impressed him with my wide receiver skills. 🤣]
However, unbeknownst to our roommates, my husband had just started dating someone else a week earlier, so our relationship was strictly platonic at first. We all began hanging out together as a group, and my husband and I became fast friends. Soon after, our soul connection became undeniable, so my husband quickly ended the dating relationship he had just started and came straight to my apartment to tell me that he wanted to be in a relationship with me. We were a couple from that moment on.
From the very beginning of our relationship, I knew that my husband was meant to be my life partner. Our shared commitment to personal growth was obvious from the start. Both of us have always understood the importance of putting in the work to better ourselves. Expanding as individuals and as a couple is a top priority for the both of us.
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There is not a day that goes by that I am not grateful for my husband. He has the purest heart of anyone I have ever met — he is loving, compassionate, and fiercely loyal. But, that doesn’t mean that we are exempt from doing the work that is required to build and maintain a strong relationship. We both put in the work when we see sides of ourselves that we need to work on. Good relationships are certainly humbling experiences if both people are willing to look inward.
What I know for sure, though, is there is no one I would rather eat humble pie with than him. We have the type of real love that wants the best for each of us and is ready to move mountains.
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Since that first day at the pool, and during the nearly 25 years as a couple since then, we have deepened our understanding of what love actually is. Our goal is to provide each other that safe place for both loss and pain to heal and for hope and joy to grow.
Our relationship is far from perfect, but we both strive to be our best each and every day. I couldn’t ask for more.
To my sweet husband: I love this life with you (minus the complex chronic illness, of course 🤣). I am forever grateful for meeting you that day at the pool. You have changed my life in more ways than I can count. My heart is full of love. ❤️
Brutal. Humble pie. Looking in the mirror and doing the work.
Beautiful. Swimming pool football. Growing and expanding. Looking in the mirror and doing the work. A moving mountains kind of love. Having that safe place.
Just another day of . . . This Brutiful Life: The Brutal & Beautiful Moments of My Life.
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